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Once upon a time…

8 Oct

Did you grow up with fairy tales?  I did and from an early age, I always wondered why the horses were pure white, the princesses had long flowing perfect hair, and the princes had solely noble intents… but there are some realities in fairy tales that I think we overlook in our zeal to believe the happily ever after endings.

Have you ever noticed that most of the Disney chosen stories (the most popularized stores) feature heroes or heroines whose best friends are animals (and it doesn’t make them crazy!), they live solitary lives, and are not looking to meet someone to sweep them off of their feet.  I think that we could learn something valuable by the non-spectacular parts of the fairy tales.

Why is it that we rush past the richness of the story to get to the end where the prince or princess meets the love of their life and lives happily ever after?  The pages between the beginning and end have richness we often disregard.

Happy endings are not the way things usually end up yet we want to believe it anyways!  Spouses are real people who often turn out to be opportunists (or worse), human “friends” can turn out to be users, and the promised happy ending is often one with debts and regrets… maybe it would serve us better to abandon the pursuit of such “happy ending futures” in favor of living a wonderful life each and every day TODAY.  Happiness today – isn’t that a novel thought?

This is something I’m learning – to live and enjoy today!  I am fortunate to have a few wonderful animal and human friends who far surpass the volume of acquaintances who are out to get what they can (it is just how the world is today!) I know that the joy from the few is golden in today’s dollars – and that is what matters.

And, I live in a free world where I can walk outside, smell fresh air, drive where and when I want, and associate with whom I please.  A great today indeed.

The past is gone and done (no sense dwelling on spilt milk), the future will never turn out to be the way we envision… why not live for today?  I choose to live the middle part of my own fairy tale life… how about you?


Computer Engineer Barbie – you go girl!

11 Mar

Mashable.com published an article this week titled: Why Computer Engineer Barbie Is Good for Women in Tech  Computer Engineer Barbie

What do you think?

This article brought to mind an experience I had after I finishing a great presentation at a leading Software Technology conference a couple of years ago. A male attendee approached me to tell me how much value he had taken from the content and he admired my presentation style. “You remind me of that female lawyer in Legally Blonde” he remarked. I was stunned (which was not the reaction he anticipated) and he immediately continued with “That’s a compliment you know – I mean you remind me of her because you are a strong, professional, confident woman!” I took the compliment graciously and realized that my professional dress and demeanor is something in which I take pride – and fashion prowess doesn’t take away anything from being an intelligent female engineer!

I assert that the introduction of any fashion-conscious, popular doll (even the fantasy-proportioned Barbie!) which conveys the possibility of a career in engineering or computer science to impressionable girls – is a good thing. In fact, the more positive role models presented as an alternative to the plethora of fictional Snow Whites, Sleeping Beauties, Cinderellas or other fairy princesses, the better! Maybe we can even anticipate “Speaker of the House” Barbie, “Nobel Peace Prize” Barbie, “Research” Barbie, and “Major CEO” Barbie in the future…

Meanwhile, I’m supportive of the Computer Engineer Barbie and her power.  “You Go Girl!”


Carol Dekkers, Software Measurement and Global Software Development expert, author, speaker. Want to engage Carol to be a speaker at your next event? Email Ms. Dekkers at dekkers@qualityplustech.com or carol@caroldekkers.com or visit http://www.caroldekkers.com for details.


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