I do not know who said
Youth is wasted on the young;
but more and more I believe that this is true.
In our youth, we worry about everything: Will we have enough money? Can we get ahead? Will my boyfriend/girlfriend be true to me? Who can I trust? What do people think of me? What can I do at work to make a good impression? Will I ever fall in love? Where should I live? What can I do to improve my career prospects? Will my children be smart? Am I a good parent? And so on…
We spend so many of our youthful days (our 20’s and 30’s) worrying and engaging in drama-filled lives that we often miss out on the sheer pleasure of being alive. I know I did. I worried about family, loved ones, children, my children’s friends, my friends, the friends I didn’t have, career, my spouse, my spouse’s career, my career, schoolwork, field trips, out-of-town trips, you name it. As a young mother, I was a master of creating and living in drama. If there was not a crisis looming or imminent, I created one or allowed my children to do so. What a waste of time, energy, and heartbeats!
Today, my life is much simpler and happier than the bygone days of worry about things I could not (fortunately!) control. My children are grown and happily independent; I have the freedom to come and go as I please; my cat is happy and well fed; I have enough work and money to be happy; I enjoy lots of social occasions; I am healthy; and I am optimistic about the future. What more could one want?
I wished for a drama-free life years ago – one filled with peaceful days free of conflict, happy times with my children, unconditional love and acceptance from myself, and supportive friendships. Today these are no longer wishes but my reality, and I am truly grateful.
Youth may be wasted on the young, but the joy of youth is certainly not wasted on those of us who stay young at heart. Wish for a drama-free life, and it too can be yours!
Have a great day,