Why does our importance in life often lie in whether it seems that others accept us or need us? To me, this is the immortal question of life – how can we gain this sense of importance on our own?
When I am traveling for work, I often overhear someone on a cell phone asking “Do you miss me?”, and it gives me pause because I used to ask the same question of someone far away. I have no idea why the answer (as long as it was positive) ever mattered (it should not have!) Today I know that statements made without action to support them are merely lip-service. We want to feel important to people so that we can gain a sense of importance in the world. (But this is misguided – we are important!)
Along the same lines, I found a quote the other day in my in-basket by don Miguel Ruiz:
Many times we don’t see our own creation; we don’t see our own lies. But sometimes in the reflection of somebody else, we can see our own magnificence. By experiencing the love of another person, we can see how great we are. From one artist to another artist, we might see that it’s possible to improve our own art.’
What do you think of this quote? It makes me feel a little bid sad because it implies that we need to see our greatness our reflection from others. Why can we not see the same reflection in our own mirror?
And what does it mean when such reflection comes up short? If someone who means something to us reflects back that we are crazy or ignorant, should we take that at face value – or reject it based on not taking anything personally? (Also a don Miguel Ruiz rumination).
As I state often, our acceptance should be of primary importance and our value in life should never hinge on another. But this quote seems to fly in the face of that… and I struggle to make sense of it.
What do you think?
p.s., This is my first post to this blog in 10 days, did you miss me ? (wink wink LOL!)
Have a good week!