Archive | November, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving 2009!

25 Nov

Thanksgiving… According to Wikipedia:  

Thanksgiving Day is a harvest festival. Traditionally, it is a time to give thanks for the harvest and express gratitude in general. It is a holiday celebrated primarily in Canada and the United States. While perhaps religious in origin, Thanksgiving is now primarily identified as a secular holiday.

As 38.4 million Americans (including me) prepare to travel more than 50 miles from home this holiday weekend, I realized just how profound an effect this day has on our country and our lives.  Regardless of the year, television depicts  Thanksgiving as a traditional, large gathering of family members cheerily assembled around a plentiful harvest feast. This year, however, many people will be in a less than celebratory mood brought on by economic strife abetted by plentiful news reports of how much worse things are going to get before they get better. Our nation is spiralling into a depressive state with the negativity and focus on what’s missing from our lives (jobs, cashflow, unified government, thriving businesses, world peace, etc.).

In a one-person effort to change this trend today – I present to you my list of things I’m thankful for today and this year (please add your own by posting a comment).  While most of us are incapable of reviving the economy, creating millions of  jobs, or feeding all our nation’s hungry, we each can make a difference in our own lives -focusing on what is going right in our lives – and sharing it with others.  No matter your age, your circumstances, your wealth, or status — remember that we only ever have today, this moment, the “now”, the present, and something to celebrate right here.

My thanks list 2009
by Carol Dekkers  

Florida sunsets
The ability to smile when it rains on the beach
 My own bed
Two grown children who are healthy and independent
Coffee (made from clean water)
Unpolluted skies
Frostfree Novembers
The ability to take a walk whenever and wherever
Friends to laugh with
Optimism
Laughter of children
Friends to cry with
Human goodness
Freedom of association
Elections
The ability to choose what I watch on TV (maybe too much choice!)
Music
Clean air to breathe
Golf courses
Dolphins
Wine tastings with friends
Wide open spaces
Alone time
Microbrews
Family members
Humorous jokes
Nature and boardwalks
The ability to travel
Friends with differing perspectives
A beautiful day

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Have a good week!

Regards,
Carol

Carol Dekkers, Software Measurement and Global Software Development expert, author, speaker. Want to engage Carol to be a speaker at your next event? Email Ms. Dekkers at dekkers@qualityplustech.com or carol@caroldekkers.com or visit http://www.caroldekkers.com for details.

dekkers@qualityplustech.com
http://www.caroldekkers.com
http://www.qualityplustech.com

Read Carol Dekkers’ other blog (Musings about Software Development) at http://musingsaboutsoftwaredevelopment.wordpress.com

Copyright 2009 Carol Dekkers – All Rights Reserved ———————

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Ride life’s waves with a change in attitude (and friends!)

18 Nov

When one is seemingly stuck in circumstances, it can feel impossible to see how life can change simply by adjusting an attitude.  For example, when financial strife hits us, when a relationship (or more than one) goes awry, when illness (mental or physical) strikes, or when fate throws us a curve ball that causes us to temporarily freeze – it can be daunting, and even more so when we meet people who tell us it’s all due to our “faulty” attitude.

While I agree that attitude is critical for a long term positive outlook (in the style of the motivational film “The Secret”), I’m of the staunch opinion that, in a time of crisis, positive attitude is only part of the solution –  it takes friends! And if the friends you have aren’t there to support you – you need to also change your friends!

Once the crisis has passed, that’s when (IMHO) it makes sense to adjust your attitude so that resiliency can begin to develop before the next big wave hits. To anyone who purports that attitude adjustment has to wait for the perfect time, I say that time will time will march on anyways – whether or not we change our attitude today – or tomorrow.

One of my favorite Einstein quotes is akin to “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”  It’s logical when we can step back from the insanity of our current circumstances and alter something small, do something different, or update our attitude, — and then we can properly expect different results.  But how can we handle things when, despite a positive attitude and outlook on life, crap happens regardless. Sure, a positive attitude allows us to ride the ebbs and tides of life, but when a big wave hits us squarely in the face, it is the positive influence and support of friends that can see us through still standing when the waves subside.

At this point in life (1/2 way through), it is not so easy to accumulate friends and make new ones – but the effort to do so can be worthwhile.  And, taking stock of the friends you have who may not support your new positive outlook can also be a good idea.  I had a friend whose attitude is to give unsolicited “realistic” (she called it) advice on everything in my life (she purported to be to be a former psychotherapist – I never verified this), and I finally realized that she didn’t support any outlook (especially positive) that contradicted her puritanical view of life.  Even though it was difficult to “defriend” her in person, for my own sanity, I had to – her “support” was simply unhealthy for my growth and well-being.

 Whether you are divorced, single, married, or otherwise – we all need more positive and supportive friends.  While you change your attitude, Get involved, get out doing things.   No one ever died saying – I wish I had fewer friends!

Have a good week!

Regards,
Carol

Carol Dekkers, Software Measurement and Global Software Development expert, author, speaker. Want to engage Carol to be a speaker at your next event? Email Ms. Dekkers at dekkers@qualityplustech.com or carol@caroldekkers.com or visit http://www.caroldekkers.com for details.

dekkers@qualityplustech.com
http://www.caroldekkers.com
http://www.qualityplustech.com

Read Carol Dekkers’ other blog (Musings about Software Development) at http://musingsaboutsoftwaredevelopment.wordpress.com

Copyright 2009 Carol Dekkers – All Rights Reserved ———————

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